A wedding is one of the biggest expenses in Timor.
The bulk of the cost comes from the “barlake”, a Tetum word which can be translated as “dowry”, or “bride price”, even though the exchanges are usually two-way between the bride and groom families.
The gifts take the form of cash, goats, pigs, buffalo, old coins, gold or silver discs, swords, statues of Catholic saints, coral necklaces, spices, wardrobes, beds, mattresses, and even houses.
The total expenditure on a traditional wedding, including the barlake, can reach $US5,000 to $US20,000, depending on the socioeconomic background of the couple’s families.
For most Timorese, going without a traditional wedding is unthinkable. It consolidates one of the most important social relationships and is the platform used to manage social debts.
A husband who married a bride from Los Palos in Southeast Timor described the obligations to me in this way:
My father-in-law gave me a “price list” that I would have to pay before marrying my wife, such as my wife’s education costs at university, which were 10 buffaloes.
We lived together for a few months before we were officially married, and that was 6 buffaloes, my boarding in their family house is 2 buffaloes, and others I could not remember.
Many Timorese postpone marriage, despite having children.Ceres Farm
Working in Australia for only six months, most send back to Timor between US$4,000 and US$8,000.
A study of seasonal workers who had returned to Timor found half rated “customary obligations” as one of the top five uses of the funds they sent back, along with starting a business, buying a vehicle, buying land and home improvements.
A worker who who had just completed a season told me:
I would like to get married, but the price is unaffordable. I could have worked for my father-in-law in the rice field for many years if I was not given the chance to get into Seasonal Worker Program. We have one three year old child already, it is just the wedding has not yet happened.
Funding a big wedding with remittances from Australia demonstrates financial capacity and status.
Remittances push up marriage rates among those who return and also allow them to marry partners who would normally be unattainable. Timorese parents ask more for high status marriages.
Australian remittances enable participants to get the emotional bonds, security and business connections inherent in marriage they might otherwise miss out on.
And they enable them to “marry up”, at least personally breaking free from the confines of a class-ridden society.
- ^ barlake (search.informit.com.au)
- ^ exchange rates (onlinelibrary.wiley.com)
- ^ East Timor, war, coffee and Australia's debt of honour (theconversation.com)
- ^ US$5,152 (www.minimum-wage.org)
- ^ not in formal employment (timor-leste.gov.tl)
- ^ Ceres Farm (ceresfarm.com.au)
- ^ Seasonal Worker Program (www.employment.gov.au)
- ^ top five (docs.wixstatic.com)
- ^ Why yet another visa for farm work makes no sense (theconversation.com)
Authors: Annie Yuan Cih Wu, PhD Candidate in Geography, University of Sydney